Guys can seem to be hard to figure out. Does he like you? Does he just want to be friends? By attuning your eye to watch his body language more closely, you’ll get all the answers you need. Some guys will make these movements big and easy to read, shy guys will be more covert about it.
Signs He’s Into You
A guy may feel the urge to hold your hand or make some other gesture of affection such as touching you on the arm or hand, but may pick lint off of his shirt or straighten his collar instead of acting on his real urges.
Also, guys may get a little nervous around you if they find you attractive. This causes the small capillaries in his face to swell just a bit and itch. If he scratches his face a little more often than he would around his buddies, it’s a sure sign he’s into you. This happens quickly so watch closely for this!
Here’s a picture of Justin Beiber. What are his thumbs pointing at? Yes, that’s right, his crotch. In this case wants everyone to know just how cool he thinks he is. If he was doing this with a girl he met for the first time though, we’d know he was attracted to her.
If you catch a man staring at you across a crowded room, you’ve got an admirer! Confident guys will hold that gaze, shy guys will look away and then look back…and then look back over and over again. Either way, they’re trying to connect with you. As you gaze across the room at each other, notice that you’ll start to do the same things at the same time like take a drink from your glass, stand up straighter, fidget or even itch your face!
Signs He Likes You
Guys will go out of their way to touch you when they speak if they really like you. It may be a gentle hand on the shoulder or a quick touch of your arm. Just know if he’s touched you a few times, he’s interested!
Look at his feet! No matter if you’re sitting or standing, his feet will point toward where he wants to go. If one foot is pointed toward the door, that’s where he wants to go! If his feet are pointed at you, that’s a sign he likes you. Here’s a guy who wants to be anywhere else than where he is!
Another sign he likes you is to notice the size of his pupils. This can take some time to get used to doing. But, if you watch closely, his pupils will dilate when he’s looking at you and get smaller when he looks away. This is completely involuntary. Everyone’s pupils dilate when we look at things we like…a baby, a puppy, a flower or you!
Here’s one final little dating tip. If a guy likes you, he will do something about it. Guys love to chase. Don’t tear yourself up wondering where he’s at. If he wants you he will ask you out and be a true gentleman.
I have a question. I like this single minister and I really believe he like me but….. he is so shy. I will catch him staring at me alot and he will smile but when I get close to him, all he will do is make very small talk and continue to smile. The problem is, we’re not young kids. Both in our early 50’s. Too old for this type of behavior. Last Sunday he shook my hand like I was one of his guy friends and I politely told him I was not a man, dont shake my hand like that. He smiled and said ok, I’m sorry. How do I handle this man. I dont feel right approaching him like any other guy. Do you think he’s just playing games or is he really shy. I dont see him talking to anyone else, so I dont believe he has anyone. He is divorced and has 3 grown sons. I’m divorced and have 3 grown sons also. Can you help a sister out??? Confused
Guys will be guys no matter what age. I’d say you’ve at least caught his eye. This one is a bit touchy because he’s a spiritual leader and has some boundaries as a result most likely–at least in his own mind. I’d just make yourself available but let him make the moves. You don’t want to push him in this situation
Traci brown I want to know. This guy in my class randomly called me his gf out or knowhere and it lasted for weeks and then he stopped for some reason. He also would say hi to me when he did it to. And he one time even wanted me to say I’m his bf cuz his friend was saying I was his. And then he would come up to me and put his hand on my shoulder and say hey gf wanna be my partner. And now he just looks at me and is quiet and doesn’t talk to me anymore. I said hi to him last week like I said what’s up and he said it back but didn’t look at me. And then when I was opening the door for him once he pretended to see someone and didn’t look at me. And he has I gf I think but the way he’s around me it’s like he likes me but I can’t tell much anymore.
You don’t need this joker. He’s just clowning around. Real men stand up and go for the girl they want. Blow him off till he starts treating you like you’re worth it.
Sorry but I’d advise that you say something to him. I’m a shy guy, just turned 31 and I identify with his behavior 100%. I keep finding myself thinking about this girl I know, she’s beautiful, outgoing and intelligent. I have all these ideas of what I’ll say to her next time I see her and how I’ll act. Yet when I see her I shut down and just smile and do the “small talk” thing. I’m almost certain that she likes me back. We just need something to break the ice.
It’s very likely that he’s a shy person so there’s nothing wrong with you making the first move. In fact, I predict (based on my own past behavior) that he’ll probably take the lead once the ice has been broken. That fear of rejection is much, much more intense for men than it is for women. So just say something to him, ask him out. Otherwise this could go on for a very long time to the point where you’ll probably lose interest because you’ll just think “if he hasn’t made a move he mustn’t like me”. Believe me, again, that fear of embarrassing yourself is much bigger for men than women. You wouldn’t know that from how the media portrays the sexes but it’s true.
So think of something to say, ask him if he has a girlfriend, throw him some obvious signs or just ask him out. If he’s like me you’ll be waiting forever. Men are told two things now “you should approach her” AND “if you approach her and aren’t sure she likes you 100% then you’re a creep.” This results in most men preferring to never take the risk. This is reflected almost everywhere in modern society. Age doesn’t matter either. He’s obviously outgoing and confident if he’s a minister but is just shy around attractive women.
it started out like this caught him staring at
me and he
turned away all embrassed….then he was
at my friends as I think he has seen me
them…twice we made eye contact for like
2 seconds. ..
this stranger guy glances at me and then
whenever we pass each other in the
occasions on seeing me je turned away his
soo quickly….anotjwr time he did a double
he looked at me looked down looked back
up and then
walked down…twice he was right in front
of me and
giving him direct eye contact he had this
eye movements as of he was escaping me
something. ..met him in the hallway and he
as I interacted with people whom I
met….now we are in
the same room and he glares at me like he
is mad or
something and often just avoids eye
together. …..whats his deal or am I reading
into it?? he is generally a quiet guy and
friends. .his behaviour is weird and he is a total stranger….. like yesterday I passed him and he
watched me pass by him. today I was
standing on his way abd I said sorry to
him, didn’t realise it was him and he turned
his head away from me like he didn’t hear
me…u know ignoring me…
last week I saw him at the church and he
turned to face me…then moments later he
comes to stand in front of me from where I
was sitting….I get and go and then a while
later we make direct eye contact….which I
break away.again I happen to walk in front
of him and he looks up seesme and then
looks down. ..doesn’t seem to bother
looking the second time. ..then again he
now turns to face me when he sees me
when he went outside the church. …..
why should he act mad now?! we work in
the same hospital and im always smiling
and laughing with my patients. …..could it
be that he doesn’t like my behaviour in the
ward??? Thnks much for answering
I think he’s into you but may be getting stuck moving forward because you two work together. And if things go wrong, he has to see you at church, too!! The on and off behavior is just showing his insecurities about the situation.
Ive found that my new boss likes me he’ll walk in my department look at me then walk back of the door before i started saying hi to him, then i started saying hi and washing to him when he looks at me he’ll do the same, then noticing he’ll walk around my department and look at me on and off, also working around me more sometimes. .. then he’ll look a my name tag while saying hi to me while were standing close face to face… when i was clocking back in from work he stood close behind me to see my full name….i was leaving with food bundles one day as i was leaving i waved hi to him he waved back and was trying to catch up with me ,by the time i got in the car he walked outside to see where i was going. ..He makes me smile his presence so i told him to come around more and he does ,,,but since he’s my boss i don’t know if it’s a good idea for it to go further, but right now we just enjoy either’s company by being as closely together as possible.. i just don’t understand what he wants from me. ..
This is a touchy situation with work–especially since he’s your boss! the best thing to do is to let him look and just enjoy the attention. If he really wants something from you he’ll be more forward.
so i go to church every Sunday and i use to see a guy there but then he stopped coming because i didn’t see him for like months and very recently i finally saw him again i have never talked to him. But through out the mass he kept looking over at me….. and you know when you go up to get the Comunion well i went and when i was walking back to my seat i was to shy to look over at him too see if he was looking at me . Then when mass was about over i was heading out the door and the whole time i was looking over at him to see if he would look back to me but he faced the wall like if he was avoiding me. And threw out the mass he kept moving around in his chair and messing with his hat. so should i just leave it like that or maybe talk to him?
There’s never anything wrong with talking to guys! See what he says when you strike up a casual conversation.
Thank you so much for your advice! But one more question that has been bothering me why did he turn at the wall and was trying to avoid me ?
Sounds like he just doesn’t know what he wants. You know…you’re too close for comfort until he makes up his mind.
i have been catching him looking at me, when we sit together, his legs points out to me, he takes a huge breath after looking at me and his face changes but he keeps asking my friend to find him a beautiful woman, sometimes it hurts me because i feel he does not like me as much as i do and i feel am not beautiful, he gives me a genuine smile when he sees me, i must say all those things attracts me to him too. he also tells my friend that he wants to marry exactly a woman whose qualities are just like mine. do you think he likes me? he has never talked to me about love though but i just can not help it. i like him alot. what do i do please help!
what if he shows a lot of intrest than avaoids you the mext day?
It’s because he doesn’t know exactly what he wants.
There this guy I might have a crush on and he been visiting a girl that’s in a hospital and he said sorry he hasnt been responding to my Texts and he says I’ll be honest I use to like her well not anymore but his actions lately say differently he just was so scared what happened to her I didn’t ask him to explain to me that information but my friend say it’s his way of opening up to me and wants to be honest . idk what you guys think??
I agree with your friend!
So it’s a good thing ?? my friends say he think he taking a liken to me he always ask how my day going , he randomly texts me ( he busy with college and work) .at times we text till 12 even though he has called me bro in text two times but never in person so idk if that’s his way of flirting.
yep he’s flirting. Just roll with it and wait for him to come around to you. He either will or he won’t. But don’t shut yourself off to other interested guys. You need one man enough to quit with the games and make a move!
hello…can i check what does the below position means….
i took a picture with someone which i find quite cute looking, but he don’t know me, i was standing on right side.. he had place a weak hand on my shoulder, leaning in slightly towards me , one leg standing straight (his right leg was near me), while his other left leg was crossed behind the standing leg, ankle was resting on the calves of right leg….rest of his position is open…
what does this mean..what body lan guage do i call this? as most leg i saw was crossed in front of the standing leg,, but his is behind…do they have he same meaning??
When people cross their legs like this it can be a kind of submissive position.
thanks traci! =)
Noticed this guy at work staring at me. When our eyes met he would smile. I smiled back. This went on for months until we bumped into each other and struck up a converstaion. He told me he was on his own, had never married, no partner or children. He continued to make it his point to catch my eye and smile.
I was moved to another office and he asked for my email address. He sent me a parting gift which I was very grateful for. I offered to buy him a cup of coffee but he looked quite surprised and I suspect he did not know how to respond. We exchaned a few emails and every now and again I attend meetings in the same office. When he sees me his smile said it all. He just stares at me and looks so happy, as am I. I noticed in order to be near me he makes it his point to speak to his admin. I would catch him looking over and smiling,
In one of his emails he told me he was overwhelemed with work. He’s a doctor and could not get staff, drug addiction. This has been an ongoing issue for over a year. Some days he’s working to 2am trying to keepup. I told him I did not want to put additional pressure on him by eamiling all the time. I think he took it the wrong way. The emails stopped. I was very upset.
I recently met him on the train and he could not keep his eyes off me. We had so much to tell each other. When he thouht I was not looking I caught him eyeing me up and down. He told me about his future plans and that he was going into private practice and asked about mine. We feel so comfortable in each other company but I feel he cannot make a move as he is very quiet. He only speaks to his staff and me but will not speak to me if I am with other people. He will walk with his head down but if I’m on my own his smile is wide and he’s so glad to see me.
He is very close to his mum and dad and takes them on holiday. I suspect he also goes on holiday alone. He tells me about his holidays but never mentions anyone else. He plays in a band which he has told me is his only means of escape. We both love music. He plays the panio and I am learing. We discovered we have so much in common. Born in the same month and year. Same interests. He is very dedicated to his job and has climbed to the top – clinical director but I feel at a cost.
I would dearly like to ask him out but do not want to appear needy but do not want to loose him. How do I tell him how I feel and would like to keep in touch again.
I think the best way to tell him is to just tell him! It’s easy to get caught up in being shy but sometimes guys are just looking for an open door. You don’t have to be strange but just let him know. He’ll either respond or he won’t. And if he doesn’t then you can keep looking elsewhere for someone.
There’s a manager at work that I am confused to whether he likes me or not. He started off staring at me ALL the time. He has joked around with me a couple of times also, has been helpful once or twice with tiny tasks. He becomes pretty nervous if we happen to end up going in the same direction and I’m behind him. He begins to reach out and starts touching whatever his hand can touch at that moment( I always turn and give him time to go where he needs to when I can). He has winked at me once when he first started showing me attention (It was a sexy wink not a silly playful one). The other day I was talking to a customer and he and I were laughing. My manager came by and looked at me. At that point he became pretty upset with me and didn’t speak or look at me for two days. I don’t understand why his behavior has become so confusing. One day he will show interest another he doesn’t. One thing he does non stop is stares at me. I feel like he likes me but being a boss has made it difficult for him.
I haven’t communicated with a man in over 20 years. Now that I have started liking this man I think I’ve made things awkward. I don’t know how to talk to him now so I just avoid eye contact with him now and when he walks toward me I just turn and walk the other way. What should I do? Thank you for your advice I appreciate your time.
First, he’s action like any other guy who likes a girl. Second, this situation is more complex than usual. With him being a manager at your job, there’s an extra taboo there and clearly he’s afraid to cross that line. You need a guy who’s confident enough that he likes you do do something about, manager or not. So keep your options open. Once he’s ready he’ll make a move.
Is my crush interested in me?
I am listing few things my crush has done or said. Please help me out. I really like him and want to know if he feels the same about me.
1) Stares at me or looks at me and when I catch him looking at me he turns away.
2) He talks to me only if we are alone. If people are around he will be like I don’t exist.
3) We don’t talk or know each other. But waves his hand and greets with “hi” if I am alone when he enters church.
4) Once his friend offered to drop me home in his car and before leaving, his friend teased him saying “don’t make this an issue in the future” and for that my crush smiled n blushed.
5) I once overheard him asking another girl to drop me home.
6) When I was down he called and texted to encourage me.
7) Mar 2016, he was standing in front of me and I suddenly turned and saw him staring at me. I smiled and he smiled back widely and continued to stare for few more sec.
8) He is very friendly and helps me immediately when I ask him.
9) He always says that I should not say thanks or sorry to him.
10) For last Christmas, I sang for the program. He took a chair far away from the crowd and sat alone where I can be seen clearly. After my song he left home in few mins.
11) For his birthday I wished him with words “God’s Masterpiece” and he kept his whats app status as “admiring God’s masterpiece” for that whole month.
12) One time he stares at me and next time we gather in church he will ignore me and act like I am not there.
13) Now a days he is totally ignoring me.
14) If I send him forwarded messages or any quotes, he replies with a thumbs up smiley. that’s it.
Its been happening for past two years and still we don’t talk on phone or we have not opened up. We get a chance to meet only in church. So communication is not possible. Please help me.
What should I do?Is my crush interested in me?
With 1-12 those are mostly signs that he’s into you. But not sure if he wants to act on it. 13 & 14 don’t sound so good. So he may have decided to back off. Here’s the bottom line. You need a guy who’s man enough to stand up and say that he like you and then ask you out. You deserve more than all of these mixed signals. SO stay open but don’t put too much effort into him. Keep looking for the guy who’s what you need.
I’m an older uni student, just finishing off my course. I’ve madly fancied a lecturer since the start (nearly 2 years ago) and only managed to talk to him a few times after lectures and once in his room to chat about something. He was quite distant in the beginning, sometimes friendly and sometimes distant. I’ve noticed the last few times I’ve seen him he’s started to smile more and the last 2 times actually stayed facing me as if he would like to talk more, however both times we couldn’t talk as he was with a colleague or I was called away. I did ask him for an informal coffee ages ago, he just smiled and said “email me”; I had already emailed him asking if he could meet about his views about something but he didn’t reply to that email. However, that was over a year ago now and he has seemed more friendly over the last few times we’ve bumped into each other. One thing stands out; I sat in on a lecture he did a while ago that wasn’t a usual part of my class. Before the class started, he was chatting to another lecturer at the front of the class and aware I was looking at him. He then bent over, fiddled with his shoelaces on both shoes for ages and then slowly lifted his head up, and looked at me and smiled, as if to see if I was looking. My course is finishing fairly soon and I don’t know when/if I’ll see him again..what do you think??
When guys do this they’re curious but not ready to do anything about it. You need a guy who’s ready to jump for you. If you want to mention that ‘you two never got that coffee’ and see if he wants to go now, then you’ll get a good read on him. Look for his instant facial expression. And saying e-mail me is the same as saying no. Don’t be too forceful but just see what he says. Who knows, maybe you’ll get a date/meeting out of it.
I’m an avid hiker and I walk in this particular neighborhood. I’ve noticed a guy, who seems shy, about 5 times now. Every time I see him, he is driving, but he always stares at me. He will drive past me slowly and look at me, then when I try to make eye contact, he looks away very quickly. A couple of times he has done this and then looked back at me through one of his mirrors. He always seems nervous if I attempt to make eye contact with him, but he makes it a point to stare at me until he thinks he will get caught. But he has never spoken to me, when he easily could. Does he sound interested? If so, should I just go ahead and talk to him and what would be a good icebreaker? Thank you!
Hi! He’s interested but not ready to make a move. Go ahead and talk to him but don’t expect any real reciprocation until he’s ready. If you can just stay friendly and leave the door open you’ll be ok. If you start putting a lot of home and effort you’ll chase him away.
I just started doing Taekwondo and today we were partners, so we had to do bo staffs together. I noticed that I between the moves of our bo staffs, he would stare at me but, you know when you put your lips together where they are in a thin line or you can’t see any of his lips? That’s what he was doing. I started around 6 months ago and after a month or so, I noticed that he would stare at me but he is extremely shy and never talks much. I just wonder if he is just being shy or if he actually likes me…. I have tried to have conversations with him but he is so nervous so I always thought it would be nicer to just let it drop. Do you think you can clear this anxiety for me? Thank you!
When lips are pressed together like you’re saying that means stress and maybe holding back info. But guys that are interested but ready to do anything about it will stare. With these guys no relationship is going to work until he makes the first move. But he may not ever do it!
Its been 3 months and me and a guy have a serious crush on each other but never seem to talk to each other. What should i do if his mother is my ART TEACHER?
Don’t worry about his mom! Just see if you can talk to him about something you both have in common… a teacher you both like/don’t like etc. Don’t expect much from him, but just try to open him up a bit and take things from there…slowly!!
My concern is with my new boss. We are both happily married but he is always twisting his wedding band when speak to him. I watched him talk with other women in our office and noticed he does not do this while talking to others. I cannot imagine that I make him nervous and I hope he is not uncomfortable around me. We talk on a professional level and sometimes joke around about our kids but every time we talk, he starts playing with his wedding band. I was hoping this was just a habit but it only happens when he speaks to me. Why?
Hi! It’s common to fidget when you’re nervous around someone. And playing with the wedding ring is a sign that he may be thinking of his wife when he’s around you–and has some anxiety about it. So that would stack up to that he’s kinda into you.
This article is very informative and amazing one. Thank you for such a great post. Very good one…..
I had dinner with 60 year old women (she has been single all her life);I am 62 year old male who lost is wife about 9 months ago
This past time out for dinner (this is the 6th time we have gotten together for dinner one on one…usually about every 3 weeks), while sitting down at the dinner table as we are talking (nice casual conversation) she has put her hands around her back. (almost like a prisoner with his/her hands tied around his/her back)….does it for maybe a minute or two as we are talking…
If it means anything, she has nice time and says its good to meet again…seems to be a friendly gesture of sorts(just based on the conversation)
From that little bit of explanation, can advise what the body language of a women while siting down having dinner with her hands around her back for maybe a minute COULD mean..
Thanks for any thoughts/input….much appreciated !.
This seems quite unusual. I’m thinking either she has an injury of some sort and is stretching. Or she’s trying not to engage. Hiding feelings, etc. given that she’s 60 and never married I’m guessing connecting with gentlemen suitors isn’t her strong point. And given that you’ve been married for so long i’m Guessing connecting with people is something you need. So you may be coming on too strong for her. Your typical behavior could just be too much for her to really process. That’s my best guess on this one